I have reached an age now where it is socially unacceptable to be in my situation. At the ripe age of 30, it is not okay to be childless or single. It is also not ok to not have an advanced degree or a flourishing career to blame for it.
I cringe everytime I have to meet new people because these four categories are most often the first things to come up in conversation. It’s quite demoralizing, really. It’s like losing a game show with each new sentence that is uttered. I can just here the sad track playing in my ears, reminding me that I did not win the grand prize.
There has to be a better way of getting to know people. Didn’t Jesus tell his followers that the last would be first in the kingdom? Why do we continually place one’s value on what they possess or what they have achieved? This seems a bit medieval doesn’t it?
It’s time to affirm people’s worth in a more practical way. Maybe if we all looked at people for who they really are, as children of the most high God, then there wouldn’t be issues of privilege or race or social status. Only then could we move onto the more important things like loving one another as much as we love ourselves.
Why don’t you give it a try? Next time you meet a new person, instead of asking what they do or how many children they have or where they went to school, ask them something else. Ask them to tell you about themselves. Let them show you who they really are. You won’t be sorry.